No parent wants to learn that their child is going through any kind of pain, be it physically, emotionally or mentally. But as painful as it may be, you have to consider the possibility that your child may encounter these situations. If you ever wonder whether your son or daughter is a victim of bullying, here are four signs to watch out for.
1. Loss of Interest in Things He Used to Enjoy
Lack of pressure is one major sign of depression. If your child no longer finds pleasure in entertainment, hobbies or foods she used to like, pay more attention. Let him know you have noticed his lack of interest and that he can tell you about it. A little sadness is normal, but an absence of sparkle and joy in your kid is something to be really concerned about.
2. Gets Headaches and Stomachaches More Often
The stress brought by bullying can cause children to feel physically sick, and stomachaches and headaches are some of the most common experiences. Pay attention if it happens in a particular setting—say, in a park or in school. They symptoms are real, but some kids who are bullied will sometimes fake it, too, in order to escape the situation where they could be bullied.
3. Frequently Damages or Loses His Things
Kids are normally clumsy and careless, but missing or broken/torn belongings can be a sign that he is bullied. A classmate takes something, books got ripped, a shoe thrown out of the school bus—these are just some of the things that bullied children experience. What’s worse is that they are afraid to tell their parents. If you notice frequent damages on his things, ask about it. If your child doesn’t answer or there are discrepancies in his answers, he could be covering up for someone’s bad behaviour towards him.
4. Claims That School Activities or After-Class Practice Got Cancelled
Cancellations happen, but if they happen a lot, your child may be avoiding something or may have dropped out of an activity because he’s being bullied. Loss of interest and changes in routine are good indicators that something is wrong. It is for you to keep updated of your child’s activities and get him to open up. Once your child speaks up, keep in mind two important things: you have to believe him and it’s probably worse than what he’s letting you know.
Whether or not you notice any of these signs, start talking about bullying with your child so he knows that he can count on you. Children need to be reassured and reminded that sharing sentiments with their parents is safe and the right thing to do.